TBH... Grab my free book from Amazon or check out this online version https://articles.gomarry.com/category/questions-to-ask-before-getting-married/
These are 101 questions i usually get non-married people to ask each other before getting married. They're not superficial, they're real, honest and there to simply get all the ghosts out of the closet so your walking into a marriage with all facts and figures.
Even though your married already, it's still not too late to sit down together and ask/answer these honestly for your sanity's sake.